"When we openly or secretly judge another, they will tend to momentarily react in the way that we are judging them to be. If we judge them to be unloving, they may become momentarily unloving; if we judge them to be uncaaring, they may react in an uncaring way, etc."
"The more significant a person is to you, the more you are affected and provoked by their judgements."
"Just as judgments provoke temporary dysfunction, resentments provoke continuous dysfunction."
"Accumulated resentment undermines the growth of love in a relationship."
"You may wish to be loving - you may even try with all your might - but your love will never be pure unless you are free from resentment."
- Men, Women and Relationships By: John Gray
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Oh, to have known these things. I'll have to check out that book. It sounds worth reading.
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